The Reminder Remedy Podcast Episode 002 — UnMastering Motherhood
Today I want to have a conversation about my journey leading up to motherhood, my first year of motherhood and how I got to this place. Motherhood is one of the hardest things I have experienced in my life.
When it comes to motherhood, there is no perfect answer and it isn’t always as you imagine it to be. I always envisioned the perfect scenario for having a child. I pictured marrying the man of my dreams, being married for a few years while traveling the world, getting the house on the hill with the white picket fence and then having kids.. to then ultimately live happily ever after.
Yet that wasn’t the case and the vision I had for my life didn’t end up being my reality. My boyfriend at the time, now husband, and I got pregnant after just 6 months of dating. To be honest, I just wasn’t ready but I knew I would figure it out.
My delivery didn’t go the way I had planned. I really didn’t want to have a C section but that’s what my pregnancy resulted in. After having my child, I was in a very dark place. I was scared and didn’t want to be a mom. I later realized I had a bit of postpartum depression.
Shortly after having my first child and working through my emotional and mental state, I became pregnant with my second child.
If you are struggling with post-partum, feel like a zombie most days, feel sad more days than you feel happy please find a therapist. The hardest part about therapy is you don’t get to have a pity party for long. During my first year as a mom, I spent a lot of time throwing myself a pity party.
In order to turn things around, I started journaling. I also decided to embrace my pregnancy more the second time around. Then I made a very important decision to take a maternity leave. I run a network marketing business that simply doesn’t turn off. Although, I knew that I needed to be there for my kids and truly embrace motherhood.
I realized I needed to stop being the mom I wanted to be for my kids and start being the mom I needed to be for my kids.
In this Episode
Where my motherhood journey started
My birthing experience
Having reservations about being a mom
Postpartum depression and delayed postpartum
Turning things around after therapy
Making mom friends
Figuring out who you want to be